Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Is Anyone Reading This?...

Feeling a little frustrated with the whole blogging thing- wondering if I should just give it up. The only reason I haven't before now is because it's pretty much all I have going in the way of a journal. People tell me that they read my blog, but I have so many posts with 0 comments that I wonder if they really are... Am I just posting things that are so boring nobody has anything to say about it? Or is everyone just reading and then keeping their thoughts to themselves? The only time I had more than 2 or 3 comments is when things are falling apart. Which makes me wonder if I should have more things fall apart- or pretend they do? :) No, I don't want that. But it does make me wonder- why is it we're only there for the people we care about when things are bad? Why can't we show our love when things are good? [And I'm just as guilty of this as anybody.]

So... because of these recent insights- and because it's obviously the month of LOVE... I'm going to make it a goal to tell someone how much I appreciate and love them every week [I'm only doing once a week because I'm hoping to keep it as a lifetime goal]. So if you get a phone call or email from me expressing my sentiments don't think I've gone insane or am going to die. :)

And if you're reading this- whoever you are- please leave a comment, even if it's only "I read this". It tells me I'm important enough for you to take a moment out of your day to see what's going on in my life. It tells me you love me and care about me. And even though things are going well for me right now, I could always use support!

24 comments:

Michelle said...

That is exactly how I felt when I went private! I do want to make comments I just barely have time to read others posts AND do my own lol! I do luv you and I do luv reading your blog! It is one of the only ways I get to see your kids and you! I promise I will start making more comments!

charissem said...

Oh trust me, I read this regularly. But I can understand your concern, so I will try to remember to make a comment especially when I swoon or giggle at your great photos.

Christina said...

You probably have a lot of visitors to your blog, but must people I've found (myself included) just read. If they have a particular thought or answer, they may post, but unless you specifically call someone out in your post, most people don't comment. I blog just mainly for family to keep undated, and I only get a comment or two. With 11 siblings on my side and eight on Todd's, you'd think we'd get more. But, oh well, I think that's how the blogging culture is.

Ian MacGregor said...

comment++

Megan said...

I am here and I love you! I appreciate when you make comments on my blog(because I totally agree with this post) and I should let you know more often how I'm glad there is this weird blogging phenomenon that has helped us stay connected. Hooray for the month of love!

ME said...

i read your blog, i think the main reason people, meaning me, don't comment is because i am socially awkward and i figure my comments don't matter... but now i know that it does, kinda.
i always get frustrated when i get no feedback from my students, and here i am not giving you any feedback. boo for me.
so, anyway, please keep blogging, and if you really wanna know who reads, you should get a statscounter, a way to spy on people spying on you... i don't know how great advice is from socially awkward me though.

Megan said...

so your blog title made Oliver curious. If you go to your dashboard, there is a tab called Stats. It's kind of interesting to look through. :) Thought I'd let you know.

The MacGregors said...

YAY! Comments! And so everyone knows that I really am reading their comments- here are my responses:

Chelle, I know life is hectic- more so for you with more kids, I'm sure. And I know you went through this going private- I still have a hard time remembering to make the extra effort to go look at your blog, but I always try to comment on something when I do!

Charisse, thanks for commenting- I really had no idea whether you ever looked at my blog or not!

Christina- I'm glad you still read my blog, and your points are valid. I still appreciate it when people take the time to comment on my blog though. :)

Ian- you're a turkey [but now I have proof that my husband reads what I'm writing for the rest of the world!]

Megan, I love you and am also SO glad we both blog- since that does seem to be the only lasting way we've kept in contact!

Mana- you are anything but socially awkward and I appreciate any input you could ever give me. Just because you're in another country doesn't mean you have nothing relatable to me and my situation. You're a woman and I'm a woman [yes, at different stages and experiencing different things, but we still have the same base!]

Thank you to everyone- for not only reading my blog, but for commenting when I asked you to! I love all of you!

Super Kimmie said...

Sorry...I'm guilty of reading blogs and next to never posting a comment. But I read and love to keep up on you guys.

Steve, Crystal, Cohen & Carson said...

I READ~!!!! I really do check and I am bad a posting comments! I think your family is adorable and your kiddos are so cute!!!! And don't give up because it really is a good journal and more people read than you think!!!

Kim said...

yes, I am a blog stalker. And I don't think there is anything wrong with that. :) Oh, I can send you an invite to my blog (just need an email), then you can stalk my blog too. :)!

Julie said...

I read and will do better at comments. You are one of the inspirations that led me to start my own blog...if just for the journaling aspect...
carlosandjuliejimenezfamily.blogspot.com!

Molly said...

I totally read your blog! And the whole thing about people only commenting when things are falling apart is totally true (and I'm guilty of it too). I always have WAY more comments when it's something negative because I think people think you need more support, or something. I just try to look at it as a way to record our family and not care about the comments, but I still usually care about the comments!

wholesomewomanhood said...

I know how you feel! Blogging takes time and work and you just want to know if anyone is really reading! :-)

BTW...I found you through Someday Crafts Gender Reveal party...

Paige said...

You should know I always read your blog, but I talk to you on the phone frequently enough that I just don't say anything :)

Lorie said...

Here's my comment :) I get it; I LOVE getting comments too. Mostly, I don't comment tons bc I don't want to get on anyone's nerves with frequent comments. Oh well, now I know, guess I will!

The MacGregors said...

Aunt Kim- thanks for posting- I know you read, but was glad you commented!

Crystal- thanks, you're always so sweet! I'm glad we can keep up with blogs!

Kim- I think I found your blog and am now following it- your boots one, right?

Julie- I didn't know you read my blog- or that I inspired you! I'll definitely be following your blog now.

Molly- yay, you read my blog too! I'm now seeing that I was right... so if you want more comments too- either have a catastrophe [which I wouldn't recommend] or call everyone out on it. :)

wholesomewomanhood- thanks for commenting, I think you're the first "random" person to do so! [But I know you're not the only one that reads my blog occasionally]

Paige- thanks for leaving a comment. I know that we do usually talk on the phone, but sometimes it's nice to have you comment on here- everyone else can see what you have to say [or that you're at least reading my blog!] :)

Lorie- I LOVE your comments! I'm glad you're still reading my blog... and speaking of blogs, you should post something- I see new pics of you on Facebook every once in a while, so I know you're not just sitting around doing nothing!

Kim said...

I have the boots blog, but we also have our family blog (it is private, so I have to send an invite to it-Trent doesn't want his clients to able to stalk us).

Denise said...

Hi, Kristen,

I do check in every once-in-awhile to see the cute pic's you post and to see how things are going for you and your little family. Most of the time it takes me more than a few tries to remember my login info, so I get tired of forgetting it and give up on trying to comment. Don't quit blogging, though! I enjoy your blog!

Brandon and Christina MacGregor said...

I am terrible about commenting on people's blogs, but I read yours all the time- I promise!!!! And thanks for all the comments you put on my blog. :-D

Alexandria Masiak said...

i just ran into your latest blog and loved it! and i'm with you... being intimate is what life's really ALL about. i used to say to myself, "if only i could love others as much as i love my wonderful children, how great things could be". thanks, dear, for the reminder :)

The MacGregors said...

Denise- I'm so glad you read my blog- it was SO good to see you this last week and catch up a little bit! One of these years you'll need to start a blog... but I don't know how you'll find the time with everything else you're doing! :)

Christina- thanks for commenting- I'm glad you notice my comments. I'm always so glad when you post something. Even though we see you at least once a month, blogging really does show a different side of people!

Alexandria- I'm glad you found my blog- and your welcome for the reminder. :) Thanks for posting a comment!

Michal said...

I read this, three weeks later:) I check in occasionally, but have struggled to keep up on ANYONE'S blog in the past year or so. Sorry. But please keep blogging, because even if I only read once every month or two, I can read four or ten posts and see what is going on in your life.:)

The MacGregors said...

Yay, Michal! I don't care if it's 3 weeks or 10 weeks later- I'm glad you read. I read your blog to keep up too and am continually amazed with all the things you manage to tackle! You are one super-woman mother!

Generic125x125