Friday, January 14, 2011

New Year's Wishes

I decided instead of calling them resolutions, I'd call them "wishes"- then it's not so much of a let down if they don't come to pass. And then I can make some for others! :)

Some of my New Year's wishes are to finish losing the last 20 pounds I need to lose, spending more 1-on-1 time with Serra, going on more official dates with Ian, and sometime this year I plan on getting away from the kids for 1 whole day. I don't know when- or how- or who's going to watch them, but it NEEDS to happen! The only time I've been away from Serra for more than a few hours is when she came up to Idaho to visit Ian last year and I stayed at a friends house instead [and during my hospital stay while having Alex]. Ian was obviously away from her whenever we were visiting Utah. But the real kicker is that Ian and I have never been TOGETHER AND AWAY from the kids for more than a few hours. Sad, I know. But we have to wait until Alex is old enough to be weaned- and not waking up constantly all night, because no one will want to babysit him!

This last year I had 3 friends and family members go through a divorce. Nearly being part of this statistic gives me a lot of opinions on the subject. But as for these divorces, I happen to agree with 1 of them- another I'm indifferent because I don't know the whole story and don't pretend to- and the 3rd I was dead-set against, but my opinion obviously wasn't taken into consideration [nor was one of the party's involved!] What's sad to me is that the people who truly should go through this catastrophe sometimes take too long... and those who shouldn't jump the gun and move out after 1 heinous fight [and let's be honest, what married couple doesn't have fights- sometimes BIG ones?] Anyway, my wish for the ones wronged is to find better, lasting love this year- or whatever support they feel like they can accept at this time. And to those doing the wronging, I wish that they can feel the emptiness and loneliness they have created and learn from it so as not to do it again!

It's also "baby time" apparently because of the people I know, these are pregnant: 1 sister, 2 sisters-in-law, 5+ cousins, and somewhere between 5 & 10 friends [depending on who's delivered that I haven't heard of yet, and those I'm speculating on]. For these I wish that this New Year brings them a healthy baby- with no complications! I know how rough pregnancy, labor, and newborns can be- hopefully those expecting a little one will be happy with their addition, even when it's tough and they don't feel like it.

My New Year's wish for Serra is that she'll continue to learn and to improve her behavior [she turns 4 this year]. She truly is a sponge and absorbs anything you tell her- or anything she happens to see or hear you do!

My New Year's wish for Alex is that he'll continue to grow and become more independent. He wants to play with Serra so much, and they do to an extent. But that will increase when he can crawl and walk- and I know he'll be so much happier for it.

Did any of you make New Year's "Wishes"? What are they?


Megan said...

I like that. New Year Wishes. And you've got some good ones. Especially for others. This year, I'm wishing for more dates with my husband(and you should go as soon as you can for that alone time with your husband...even just one night at a bed and breakfast is amazing). I'm wishing to be a little better at being a sister, friend, wife, mother, daughter, etc. we'll see how it goes. :) I love you Kristen.

Michelle said...

I will fly out to watch your kids for 2 days! I would love to do it!! I think every couple is looking for more dates because that is the wish for about half of my friends myself included. I would love to lose weight somehow I got to be a number I haven't seen since before Eddie was born and I was sick.. Missing you tons so I think one of my wishes is going to be to come out and see you! Good luck with your wishes!